Being fired sucks. Anyone who’s had a few jobs has made mistakes and may have been fired at least once. Or twice. Sometimes we open our big mouths when we know it’s a bad idea, while other times we’re just not cut out for the job. There are a lot of ways to move on from a firing and we’ve come up with some tips to help.
Keep a Positive Attitude
Getting fired from your job can be a painful and scary experience. Feelings of rejection, anger, and fear are common and expected, but dwelling on the negative isn’t going to solve anything. Your attitude matters; potential employers will see it when they interview you. Getting caught up in the negative of what happened can keep you from moving forward. Let go of bitterness and avoid bashing your previous employer.
Make a Plan
Start with a plan of what you’d like to do and where you want to work to get you on the road to your next job. Make a list of companies you’d like to work for and learn how to apply for jobs at those companies. Update your resume to focus on the skills and qualifications needed for the job that you’re applying for with a new company. Once you have a plan, stick to it and apply for the jobs you think you would excel at.
Perform Some Self-Evaluation
After you’ve been fired, it’s helpful to take some time for honest self-evaluation. Coming to terms with the reasons behind being fired is important to avoid being fired again in the future. What did you learn from the situation? Is it part of a pattern in your life, or a one-time event that you don’t intend to repeat? During this process of internal dialog, decide how best you can move on from the situation and be a better person because of it.
Realize Change is Good
No one likes being fired, but sometimes it comes as a blessing in disguise. Most people don’t leave a job simply because they’re unhappy, especially in this economy. Getting fired can bring about a much needed change. Now, being let for something like harassment or embezzlement will be much more difficult to overcome than being fired for a personality clash, a disagreement, or performance issues.
Emotions, Emotions, Emotions
It’s ok to freak out when you’ve been fired. The flood of emotions will come; you just have to be ready to stop it and not let it overwhelm you. Find an outlet to express your emotions: go to the gym, paint, write, listen to music, or dance. Anything to keep you from hiding behind your emotions. Getting out of the house, staying active, and talking to a friend or family member can also help you deal with the rollercoaster of feelings.
Remember that everyone gets fired at least once in their career. Do your best not to dwell on the negative. Focus on getting a job where it will be a good match. Who knows, losing your job could be the best thing that’s happened to you.
Have you been fired before; how did you handle it?